Life Hacks to Increase Your Productivity and Success

Want to squeeze out every moment of every day like a superstar? It’s not hard if you program your mind and body with some simple hacks.

 

Start Your Day Right

How many of us switch on our smartphones the moment we get up in the morning? Most of us do, and it’s time to ditch this harmful habit. Instead, stay in bed for an extra five minutes after your alarm goes off. Focus on your breathing and engage in a 15-minute power yoga session or another quick exercise. Do your stretches and feel your muscles unfurl after a good night’s rest. Before the madness of your morning routine begins (making breakfast, packing lunches, etc.), take some time out to acknowledge your body. This is also a great time to quickly make a concise day plan.

 

Don’t Get Distracted

You’re finally stationed at your desk, ready to go, when a notification about the latest recommendation on Goodreads pops up. Ignore it. Studies have shown that it takes a person more than 15 minutes to return to their original task when distracted by an electronic device – usually a smartphone. Along with ignoring devices, you should also shut out unnecessary interactions with people who will take up your time without offering anything productive in return. If you’re afraid of seeming rude, keep these interactions until the end of the day, when all your major tasks are completed.

 

Hate It? Do It!

Speaking of those tasks, many of them can be quite cumbersome or even downright boring. Unfortunately, these are also tasks that absolutely must be done. Remember your day plan? Place your least interesting tasks at the top of your to-do list so you get them out of the way first. It could be proofreading an 800-page document full of spelling errors or mundane research on clams – whatever they are, get them done. Doing so will make your preferred tasks seem even more desirable, and you’ll find yourself more energized to take them on.

 

Finish the Quick-Fixes

Some tasks will be quite easy, and that’s precisely why you keep pushing them to the bottom of the list, promising yourself that you’ll get to them eventually. If they’re brief in terms of time and energy required, just get them done. The result will be a feeling of positivity and accomplishment at having ticked off several tasks. You’re already having an extremely productive day. Now you can reply to those emails, make that phone call you’ve been putting off, or refill the cartridge in your printer – it just takes a minute or two.

 

Smell the Roses

Finally, it might sound insignificant, but take a moment to step back and enjoy life. Half-hour subway ride ahead of you? Read some of that novel you recently started. Extra 15 minutes before your next meeting? Watch a fun video on your phone or spend a few minutes with a mobile game. Appointment cancelled at the last minute? Take a quiet walk in the park with your phone’s ringer off. These short breaks are like power naps – designed to refresh you and reboot your brain. Then, when you’re back behind that desk, you’ll be your best, most productive self.

 

Lisa Day | DBPC Blog

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Living the Life You Want to the Fullest

We’ve all heard the expression “live life to the fullest,” but what does it really mean?

Naturally, your mind may wander to the extreme: cliff jumping, sky diving and other adrenaline-inducing experiences. While that may be someone’s version of living life to the fullest, it may not necessarily be your own.

 

With the New Year around the corner, it’s a great time to start thinking about what your own version of the expression is. Here are some tips to help you get there:

 

Be a ‘Goal Digger’

Not content with the life you’re currently living? According to Mick Ukleja, co- author of Who Are You? What Do You Want?: Four Questions That Will Change Your Life, that’s much better than being too content, which leaves little room for personal growth. Desire fuels us, which explains why, as per Time, people with goals are 20% more satisfied with their lives.

 

Focus on Feeling

According to transformative life coach and author Bernadette Logue, one of the best ways to live life to the fullest is to write down what it means to you and how you would feel if you were living your fullest life. Better yet, revisit those feelings once a day. The more in tune you are with your feelings, the easier it is to avoid giving in to negative thinking.

 

Do Something You Love

An easy way to feel good is to do at least one thing you love each day. We spend so much time fulfilling other people’s to-do lists and our own chores that we often neglect the things we actually enjoy doing. Love to play an instrument, hike, or cook? Whatever it is that makes you happy, make time for it in your day; you won’t regret it.

 

Leave Your Comfort Zone

We all know life isn’t always easy, and why would we want it to be? Easy is boring. As Lewis Carroll famously said, “We only regret the chances we didn’t take.” Every reward has risk, but that’s what makes life exciting. Psychologist Amy Bucher notes that “running away from fear intensifies our anxieties.” The more you face fear, the more control you have over it.

 

Pay it Forward

Kindness is contagious. In a study on the topic, Shawn Achor found thatindividuals who completed five acts of kindness over the course of a day reported feeling much happier than control groups and that the feeling lasts for many days.” Whether it’s as small as holding the door open for someone or buying the person in line behind you at Starbucks a coffee, why pass up an opportunity to make yourself – and others – feel good?

 

Before you take up sky diving or cliff jumping, realize that it’s the decisions you make in each moment that add up to your happiness, and thus a life that feels full. Taking things one day at a time will be more effective than making big, dramatic changes to your life all at once. As Logue says, “No one else misses out if you don’t live your life to the fullest, it’s just you that misses out.”

 

So, what are you waiting for?

 

Laura D’Angelo | DBPC Blog

Stop Eating Out: How to Make Healthy Meals at Home

Stop Eating Out: How to Make Healthy Meals at Home

The choice between eating out and cooking at home is a common dilemma for busy professionals. On one hand, eating out is quicker and easier; but on the other, it can get expensive, and in many cases the food isn’t always the best for you, even if you avoid traditional fast-food outlets. However, cooking at home often means extra time and energy that, after a long day at work, you don’t always have.

As more and more people work more than the traditional 40-hour workweek (which is still enough to tire many people out), the time required to prepare a meal at home after a long day at the office can seem increasingly like a luxury. It’s often much easier to simply stop at a take-out restaurant, or, in this age of UberEats and other such apps, just order in.

Below are some tips on making it easier to prepare healthy, home-cooked meals and cut down on how often you eat out.

Prepare Food in Advance

A solid tip to avoid the problem of having no energy or time – especially if you’re the type who gets home late enough that the thought of cooking just makes you feel even more tired – is to get a head-start on your dinner early.

It may seem strange at first, but try getting up a bit earlier and starting on that night’s dinner in the morning, before you leave for work. You don’t necessarily have to cook a full meal, but even getting a head-start on things like marinating meat or fish, washing and/or chopping vegetables and storing them, or defrosting meat by transferring it from the freezer to the fridge will shave precious time off your food-prep schedule once you get home. You can even get started on some meals over the weekend, then refrigerate or freeze it for use through the week.

Make More Than One Meal’s Worth

Try preparing double- and triple-servings of some foods to store for use later in the week. Not necessarily full meals (you’ll probably get sick of leftovers of the same dish two or three times a week), but side dishes like rice or certain vegetables can be re-used in various combinations across a few different meals.

Do Your Dishes

This isn’t about acting like a nagging parent, but it’s a good idea to get into the habit of doing your dishes after each meal. Nothing will discourage you from cooking than arriving home to a sink full of dirty pots and pans that you know you’ll have to clean before you even start preparing food.

Eat Healthier

There have been numerous studies that link energy levels to the quality of food we eat. If you just eat stuff like McDonald’s or pizza all the time, it’s no wonder you never feel like preparing anything yourself. Don’t fall into this vicious cycle.

Do a little research and ensure that you’re getting the required amounts of nutrients in your meals. Modify recipes that include fatty ingredients like butter, or that recommend cooking with animal fat. Don’t add salt to food during preparation. Use non-stick pans to reduce the need for oils and butter while you cook. Trim the fat from meat and remove chicken skin before cooking. Try cutting down on the amount of meat in your meals, and balance it out with more whole grains and vegetables.

These tips are just intended to be a starting point to get you moving in the right direction. A little bit of effort and you’ll soon find yourself in the habit of eating at home, and eating better. It’ll likely save you some money, and you’ll feel better about yourself. It’s a true win-win situation.

Spelling and Grammar in Professional Communications

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You spend months waiting for that important email, and finally the day arrives! Opening your inbox, you see your new business partner’s name at the top of the list. But the subject line gives you pause: “Your invited!” Well, accidents happen, you think as you open the message – but it only goes downhill from there…

In a world ruled by social media, where something that occurred an hour ago is no longer considered “news,” conveying the message itself has taken priority over how that message is conveyed. In fact, many business owners forget that correct spelling and grammar are integral to professional communications. They help avoid confusion, loss of credibility, and a host of other problems.

A few advantages of grammatically correct writing include:

  • A good first impression of your business creates a solid foundation for the future at the outset. Proper grammar not only demonstrates impeccable attention to detail but also provides your audience with confidence in your skills.
  • Appropriate use of spelling, grammar, and punctuation results in more effective communication. It is crucial to convey your message in the clearest way possible, without hindering your audience’s ease of reading or comprehension.
  • According to LinkedIn, grammatically sound marketing messages help maintain an organization’s competitive edge. Research also shows that consumers are much less likely to make a purchase on a website with glaring spelling and grammar errors.
  • A recent study by Grammarly found that professionals who fail to progress to director-level positions in the first 10 years of their career make more than double the number of grammar errors.
  • The study also revealed that professionals who earn six to nine promotions in a 10-year period make 45% fewer grammar errors than their less frequently promoted colleagues.
  • Proper spelling is essential not only for the message you are attempting to convey, but also for the medium in which it is delivered. Spelling a professional contact’s name and email address correctly indicates that you respect them and their time.
  • Eloquent use of language establishes a business owner as an expert in their field. A perfect structure and smooth flow of your message indicates that you are speaking from experience, whereas awkward sentences imply lack of industry knowledge – regardless of whether or not this impression is a reflection of the truth.
  • Clear, error-free language also helps establish trust in both internal and external communications. Be it your clients, partners or even your own employees, anyone to whom you convey written messages must be able to rely on complete transparency from you as a business owner.

If you need proof that bad grammar can cost your business, one company learned about it the hard way. You may be familiar with the age-old debate on the Oxford comma. While in some cases it may not be necessary, in others its absence can completely change the meaning of a sentence. (For example, “I would like to thank my parents, Ayn Rand and God” vs. “I would like to thank my parents, Ayn Rand, and God.”) That distinction could cost a Maine dairy company $10 million in lawsuits due to unclear wording in a state law.

The next time you doubt the impact of spelling and grammar on professional communications, remember the examples above. Is an extra minute to proofread an email or a Facebook post worth it to avoid all the problems that could follow? It is, indeed.

 

Diana Spektor | DBPC Blog

5 Ways to Make Your Job More Meaningful

5 Ways to Make Your Job More Meaningful

Many of us at some point have had the kind of soul-sucking, mindless, monotonous monkey work that makes us grit our teeth and grumble. Still, some of us have been lucky enough to have work that excites us.

 

Whether you have the kind of job you look forward to going to, or the kind of job you look forward to leaving, how is it possible to find meaning and fulfillment on a day-to-day or week-to-week basis?

 

Here are five tips from businesspeople and entrepreneurs, that might help.

 

Help Your Employees (or Yourself) Improve

 

“The more skills you equip an employee with to make them more attractive in the marketplace, the more fulfilling their job will be. People want to feel valuable, and important, and if you think of the individual’s long-term career goals first, you will maximize their skills and in turn, make them invaluable in achieving the goals of your own organization,” notes Jeremy Durant, CEO of San Francisco’s BOP Design.

 

Consider the Greater Good

 

Phil Gerbyshaks is a Wisconsin-based speaker, author, and a trainer, who delivers programs on the power of technology, social selling, and connection. He suggests fulfillment can be found by “focusing and drilling down until you find the greater good goal.”

 

“Something beyond ‘to pay my bills’ or ‘to make the company profitable.’ The more a goal is connected to a greater good, the more meaningful the work will be. If you lead people, help them find this meaning by connecting the minute-to-minute to the greater good, and celebrate progress towards that goal by adding milestones along the way, so the clues of success are visible, for others to see too.”

 

Find the Fun in What You Do

 

No matter the kind of work you do, find something that’s enjoyable in it, encourages David Hunter, New Brunswick-based CEO of Blugenics Innovations Ltd., which produces a line of phytoplankton supplements and creams.

 

“Sprinkle in positive attitudes, and you can overcome obstacles and reach goals… having fun is what makes business meaningful.”

 

Discover How Your Work Benefits Others

 

Makarand Deshpande, a Toronto-based financial planner, says he makes his clients’ concerns his own.

“I invest the time to understand each client and their unique values, experiences and dreams. I then share a process that aligns who they are, and what they care about, with a strategy that meets their vision. The real benefit is the confidence and peace of mind in knowing that my clients have a trusted confidant and counsel for their life’s vision.”

Caroline Neron’s philanthropic work is tied to the success of the company, and she maintains that giving to various charities “really fulfills” her. The Quebec singer and entrepreneur has a line of jewelry seen in more than 20 boutiques across Canada, and a few hundred distributors globally.

“Women’s issues are very important to me, especially since my daughter was born,” she says. “I am also very supportive to causes that relate to children. I even created a tween collection called EMA, named after my daughter, that donates $1 of every piece purchased to the Breakfast Club of Canada.”

 

  1. Help the Company Perform Better

 

Los Angeles-based Rachel Lee of SORI Brand teamed up with her mother Cara to create a women’s contemporary clothing brand. Rachel says growing and developing the company is always top of mind. With that mission, she finds fulfillment in bettering the brand, and as a happy byproduct, bettering customer’s satisfaction.

 

“[Spanish Basque fashion designer] Cristobal Balenciaga once said, ‘Fashion is not about clothes; it’s about people,’ and it inspires us to bring out that truth in everything we do for the brand. This attitude pushes us to be mindful of how we can improve the SORI experience for our shoppers, and it encourages us to take initiative,” notes Lee.

“We strive to improve the lifestyle for women, to lead the fashion industry in a new and innovative way, to make women feel youthful at any age.”

These tips from businesspeople and entrepreneurs have helped them and others derive meaning from their work, and they can hopefully be good pointers for those seeking ways to make their own jobs happier and more fulfilling.

 

Dave Gordon | DBPC Blog

8 Tips to Manage Toxic Employees and Managers

Toxic Employees and Managers

For most managers, learning how to effectively lead a team is a daunting task. Understanding what skills everyone brings to the table, and how to use them to the company’s advantage, is a challenge on its own. But oftentimes the most difficult part of management is knowing how to deal with that one employee or manager. The one who always seems to be in the middle of a heated argument, the one whose name is constantly brought up in HR meetings. Here are a few tips on how to manage a toxic employee or manager.

 

How to handle a toxic employee:

 

Look Past Their Brilliance

 

To form an objective opinion on a difficult employee, you need to separate their work performance from their behaviour. Sometimes the most competent worker can have a poor attitude, which eventually affects the rest of the team. This can be destructive to the company’s morale in the long run, so how do you correct the problem? Start by keeping an eye on their team dynamics; jot down feedback from their co-workers; document HR complaints. Make it clear that the employee’s performance is not relevant to the issue, but rather it’s their attitude that’s a problem. Once you stop rationalizing their troubling behaviour because of the value they bring to the organization, you’ll begin to see the full picture more clearly.

 

Reinforce Accountability for Everyone

 

There’s only one set of rules for the whole team, and everyone should understand that. If others become aware that certain people get a pass for their bad behaviour, resentment and dysfunction will begin to simmer beneath the surface. Be firm with your team and make your expectations clear. Establish the ground rules for appropriate behaviour, and reinforce the penalties for not adhering to them.

 

Be Proactive

 

Observe the individual in action, provide feedback and coach them if necessary; these are your tools for implementing real change. If you create opportunities where you can work with the individual and provide constructive feedback, you can offer advice to improve their behaviour and show them alternative ways to approach a situation. Equally as important, make sure you provide positive feedback to the individual when it’s justified; this well help them see how situations can be handled with a positive approach moving forward.

 

If There’s No Progress, Go Further

 

Once you’ve implemented the above steps, you’ll have to assess whether the individual is making progress. Be honest with yourself; if the employee continues to disrupt the work environment, you must take further action. Keep your superiors informed of the entire process, as they need to understand how this employee’s negativity impacts the entire team and overall productivity. You may want to work with your HR specialist as well to develop and implement an escalation program which includes termination for lack of compliance.

 

 

How to handle a toxic manager:

 

Learn to Speak Their Language

 

Dealing with a difficult boss is not an ideal situation for an employee. But sometimes learning more about your boss – their likes, dislikes, goals and fears – can work in your favour. Observe your boss’s behaviours and preferences; if you speak to your boss’s core interests and match their style of communication, it can be a great way to get them to listen to what you have to say.

 

Focus on Their Strengths, Help with Their Weaknesses

 

You can help your boss by emphasizing what they’re already good at. A great way is to help them improve their own performance. If your manager lacks organization, offer to help him or her stay on top of their schedule. If showing up late to meetings is a problem for your boss, take the initiative to start the next one yourself. If you help your boss succeed, you’ll be seen as an asset, and the work you’ve put into making the company better will be appreciated.

 

Address Your Concerns Directly

 

Don’t be afraid to speak up, you owe it to yourself and your boss to be honest about how you feel. Although it may be easier to keep quiet or move on to the next opportunity, give your boss a chance to respond. If you approach them respectfully and with the intent of mending the relationship, you may be surprised to see it open a new level of trust and collaboration between you. And at the very least, you can tell yourself that you gave them the opportunity to change.

 

If All Else Fails, Prepare for Your Next Move

 

You’ve exhausted all your resources, and you’re content to move on to another company, so prepare yourself for this change. There’s nothing worse than escaping one toxic work environment and moving to an even worse one, so do your research: Meet your new co-workers for coffee and learn more about the work culture; ask questions about the team you may be joining and what sort of management practices are common. Whether you’re moving internally to another department or joining a new company entirely, it never hurts to be prepared.

 

 

Aileen Ormoc | DBPC Blog

Silicon Valley’s Rest and Vest Culture is Real

It would be lovely to go to the office and not have to work. Even better to swim, play volleyball and drink beer while there. This isn’t the stuff of fantasy; rather, it’s a new breed of wealthy tech engineers who are playing hard instead of working hard, and they’re doing it on the company’s dime.

 

They are the Rest and Vest bunch, as seen most recently on the hit HBO comedy Silicon Valley. On that show, characters working for fictional tech firm Hooli (a Google analogue), hang out on the office rooftop and guzzle brews while waiting out their contracts or waiting on a big merger or takeover.

In real life, these tech workers are indeed paid insane amounts of money, sometimes millions, to essentially use the office as their own personal play area. The online slang dictionary describes the phenomenon as, “at a place of employment, to do little work while waiting for one’s stock options to vest.”

As Business Insider reports, Microsoft has enabled or encouraged this kind of activity. They’ve sought out niche experts in burgeoning industries, such as artificial intelligence and quantum computing, and offer a generously increasing bonus, called “discretionary equity”, to ensure these employees don’t migrate to another company. In the interim, they can still be university professors or do other lucrative work, all while continuing to collect these “discretionary” bonuses concurrently.

One tech expert who has worked with Microsoft, Intel, and Sony, says there’s a perfectly good explanation for this sort of arrangement.

 

“Competition for great resources is fierce in Silicon Valley, and with the [US] ‘travel ban’ legislation in play, companies’ abilities to recruit and retain the best talent are going to become even more difficult,” notes Lori Schwartz, principal of Story Tech, a Los Angeles-based agency that uses evolving technology to help businesses find strategic solutions. “So it becomes a strategic imperative to get and keep ‘talent’, however necessary, close by.”

 

Tenured employees at tech companies, meanwhile, are doing their own version of playing at the office. They’re coasting through their work – when they bother to do it – knowing that they’re so valued, the company wouldn’t dare let them go. These are the “coasters”, a subset of the Rest and Vest crowd.

But what about the swimming, volleyball, and other fun at the office playground? That’s also abundant and real. All the largest tech firms – Google, Microsoft, LinkedIn, Facebook, Oracle – offer some variety of carnival-like amenities for employees.

 

Oracle has beach volleyball and a swimming pool; Microsoft boasts Xboxes for its staff, an on-site spa, and fields for cricket or soccer among its “benefits”; Google offers free massages, yoga and a rock climbing wall; and Mark Zuckerberg wouldn’t let his Facebook hires go a day without opening up the video arcade, the foosball or ping-pong tables. (Employees at the social media giant also get three weeks of paid vacation and unlimited sick days.)

And why even go home, when Google, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn all offer unlimited free food throughout the day?

No surprise, then, that Rest and Vest techies are hardly in short supply at these Fortune 500s, indulging in Silicon Valley’s version of an indoor Coney Island fairway.

Few companies, however, will admit outwardly to grooming the Rest and Vest practice. Band reputation is everything, and no company will risk its brand by allowing employees to talk to the press about this part of tech culture.

Though companies are loath to admit they have these kinds of employees on payroll, they do exist. And some aren’t happy about the practice.

 

“I do understand some of the motivations behind ‘Rest and Vest’, particularly the interest of some companies in keeping ‘top talent’ out of the general job marketplace,” notes Jerrold Landau, a 27-year employee of a global tech company’s Toronto office. “But it goes against everything that my company stands for, and likely, that many other companies stand for.”

 

But these engineers can’t all just be playing Xbox, or there would be no innovations or development. In the looser definition of Rest and Vest are employees who know they can indulge in playtime, so long as they complete what’s expected of them.

Though not exactly sitting on a rooftop drinking beer, Doron Nadivi could, in theory, do that while working. He’s the VP of business, development and growth hacker of Pruvo Net Ltd. – and he’s 10,000 kilometres away from his boss. Nadivi is in Costa Rica, while his company is based in Tel Aviv, Israel.

 

“I can tell you that as long as I provide results, he could care less how many hours I work, rest, vacation, etc.,” he explains. “Results are the name of the game, at least in the eyes of CEOs that understand efficiency over effort-action.”

 

But there is a hidden downside to this lax approach to work that some Rest and Vest tech workers are learning the hard way, primarily when the time comes to move to another job.

Their position and title may have some impressive clout, but when an interviewer or headhunter asks what kinds of things they did while at Google, “played ping-pong and drank beer on the rooftop” is not the best answer.

 

Dave Gordon | DBPC Blog

Photo credit: Haldane Martin

Six Tips to Project More Confidence

Six Tips to Project More Confidence

Increasing your confidence can help you in a variety of ways, from making you more likeable, to making others feel more comfortable talking with you.

 

It also increases your chances that people will listen to you, buy from you, and believe you.

 

What’s more, confidence creates decisiveness.

 

“And in business, you have be decisive in order to move in the right direction,” explains Sharon L. Lechter, noted businesswoman, investor, and co-author of more than a dozen books under the Rich Dad brand.

 

“We’ve all heard the term analysis-paralysis. It is the lack of confidence, where you overly-question yourself. Instead, have faith in what you’re doing, and trust in your experiences, to help you create that decisiveness.”

 

Zoe Share, CEO of Schmooz, a Toronto-based communications company, adds that while confidence is “innate in certain people, it’s also something many people have to learn.”

(what better way to learn how to confidently schmooze, than from the founder of a company by the same name.)

 

“If you don’t believe in yourself, why would anyone else believe in you? You have to command that confidence.”

 

So, here are six basic tips on how to command confidence:

 

  1. Dress the part – People look at image first, before personality (although personality is what sells all the time). We all know that first impressions count. Having the right image – as opposed to baggy pants or a tee shirt – definitely brings out confidence.

Especially if you are doing presentations, remember that the audience is watching you, before they listen to you, so look like the amount you want them to buy.

 

  1. You know things others don’t – Everyone has some expertise, in something. See yourself as the expert in what you are talking about, sharing about, or selling. People listen to, buy from, and want to do business with experts, especially when they have the credibility to back it up.

 

  1. Avoid self-defeating thoughts – As Ms Share explains, many people feel ashamed when they perceive that they have certain “flaws” – be it appearance, lack of success, or fear of failure – and that emotion holds back their confidence.

 

“Have the confidence to admit you don’t know something or you don’t have something. Know what you know, and what you don’t know. It allows you to own who you are,” notes Share.

“Then, you’re in a place where you can accept growth.”

 

Be grateful with what success you do have, rather than comparing it to others, and that will likely suppress those self-defeating thoughts, she adds.

 

  1. Body language – “Having the right body language is also a good way to project confidence,” notes renown business coach Camilita Nuttall.

 

“Look up, talk to people straight in the eye, give a firm hand shake, and maintain the right posture. All of this shows whether you value yourself, and your client.”

 

  1. Speak strongly – Avoid “uptalk”, as in ending statements as though they were a question. Also avoid “um” and “you knows.” Don’t interrupt others (it’s a sign you’re insecure about conversation). Don’t speak too quickly, or it seems as though you’re nervous. Project your voice, and thus, feel more confident.

 

  1. Smile – Nothing says confidence like a big bright chin-up smile, fired directly at the person you’re speaking to. Smiling, as it happens, triggers endorphins and serotonin, the happy hormones, making us feel even happier. It’s tough to be shy when you’re happy. Your smile will beget your fellow’s smile. By helping each other feel more comfortable, you’re helping each other become more confident.

 

 

Dave Gordon | DBPC Blog

3 Things You Need to Succeed

Each one of us wishes to be great and successful. But often times due to society’s expectations, we stopped dreaming and just wished to make ends meet. That seed of greatness is still in you waiting to return. Successful people are mostly average individuals who made the average to extraordinary. Have you ever wondered what Bill Gates has that makes him so successful? How about the director/producer, and multi-billionaire T.V. personality, Oprah Winfrey? Or how about the young man by the name of Usain Bolt with humble beginnings who trained diligently to become the fastest man in the world? It is not chance or luck that they are where they are right now. They have these three things that made them rise to the top:

  1. Grit

Grit is the driver of success. It is the incessant desire to keep going especially when the going gets tough. It tests the strength of your character. It starts with a vision of what you want to achieve and makes you work harder than anyone else to achieve it. This is how you become bold by doing what everybody dares not to do. The “Buts” and the “ifs” are not a part of your vocabulary. You simply just do it. Thomas Edison tested a thousand prototypes, wasting a lot of money just to find that one perfect bulb that we use on a daily basis. Imagine if he quit on the third attempt. What a dark world we would live in.

  1. Mindset

To be successful, you need to have the right mindset.  You are in your current situation in life right now because of how you think. If you are not close to achieving your dreams maybe you need to tweak how you see things and how you do things. Be more organized or read more books on personal development. Self-help books on Amazon emphasize the power of the mind. Napoleon Hill popularized this concept in his book Think and Grow Rich. He explains that the mind is powerful enough to make anything a reality. Two important words by Hill: to conceive and believe. To conceive is the ability to visualize to the point that you are almost feeling it on the tips of your fingers, and believing that someday it will be yours. These ideas brewing in your mind need to be put into action. The impact of positive thinking is necessary for success and this shift in paradigm is discussed by Bob Proctor in his famous YouTube videos, that can be your path to success.

  1. Discipline

Once you’ve decided to be a better version of yourself, you need the discipline to continue on that path. Jim Rohn said that success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day. And he believed that the key to a better future, is you. Have you ever heard of an athlete waking up at noon? Or have you heard about the diet programs required to stay in shape for competitions? All those sacrifices and time spent to develop oneself are the keys to success. Discipline is your fuel to success. For me, this is the most painful of all the three. We are all creatures of habit. To break free from it is difficult. How much more can you tolerate? Dealing with change or regret?

You have what it takes to be a champion. You have the heart of a winner. Your life has a purpose. Keep dreaming. Success depends on you.

 

 

M. Diaz | DBPC Blog

How to Handle an Anxiety Attack

Did you know that almost everyone will experience an anxiety attack at least once in their life? Although many people feel euphoric about living with easy access to everything at their fingertips, they are constantly subjected to stressful triggers. Most of the anxiety attacks are caused by excessive fearful behavior fueling the assumption that something bad is about to happen. Let’s delve into some simple, yet effective habits that can prevent this health hazard:

Recount experiences to identify the usual suspects: I can vividly recall one of my job interviews when I felt ecstatic because I was coasting towards my dream job. Then came a decisive moment, where I clicked the panic button for no reason which completely crushed my chances. Two weeks later, I received the sad but apparently correct response that I did not get the job. This incident made me realize that fear of failure was the main culprit behind my fiasco.

Embrace your fears: The root cause of anxiety is diverse types of fear. Fear signals instant danger and puts you in alert mode; however, most often it is a result of a perceived or an imaginary threat. Furthermore, if you develop a fear of anxiety attacks, it will gradually develop into Panic Attack Disorder, a condition where panic attacks are recurrent and disabling. Start acknowledging the fact that fear is a natural and powerful emotion that can either mentally drown you into an abyss or help you stay afloat in challenging situations. To its credit, fear has been acknowledged as an integral part of the success story of the human evolution progression.

Relax your mind and body: Anxiety attacks dare not kill you! They are not heart attacks after all. Sipping a cup of hot green tea, taking a slow and deep breath, getting a massage, listening to your favorite playlist or going for a long run – these are all effective and fun-filled ways of alleviating stress levels. Identifying your hobbies and indulging in them, even for a brief amount of time during these attacks, will uplift and rejuvenate your senses.

Everything’s Gonna Be Alright: Remember that famous line from Bob Marley’s song? Stop worrying about the future and do not delve into the past. Enjoy the present moment and the simple fact that you are “alive.” Come to a consensus that becoming agitated and spiraling down into a nervous breakdown is not worth it. Anxiety attacks are just like passing clouds; they will have their brief moment and disappear as soon as your brain receives feedback that the imminent threat is averted.

The right amount of self-help coupled with therapy from a professional counselor can do wonders in understanding and overcoming anxiety attacks.

 

 

P. Ganga  | DBPC Blog